I’m going to die. You’re going to, also. Whether it’s today, or seventy years from now…death is inevitable. I know it may seem a bit sinister to begin a blog with such a grim reality, but it helps us to visualize a timeline, which most of us are traveling, carelessly.
Every January 1st we celebrate a year closer to our deaths. However, do we ever stop to wonder what we’re actually celebrating? I’m sure we’re, all, grateful to be alive to see another year, but what is going to be different this year, besides the numbers used to write down the date?
What’s going to change besides our age? Really? What’s all the excitement about? Does anyone ever really stop to think about why we do all this celebrating for the new year?
Please take a moment to tell me the difference between January 1st, May 17th or September 8th? Why do we make such a big deal about January 1st? Is it the “year” or is it the “new” part that excites us?
For me, there’s something exciting about the collective energy circulating around this concept of change, when we celebrate a New Year, as I’m sure it is for you. I believe somewhere deep within our souls, we all want change or maybe I should use the word “improvement.”
As we all know, not all change is good. I believe, somewhere in our lives we want improvement, whether it’s spiritual, social, financial, occupational, recreational, health related, etc.
Maybe your life is perfect, but mine is far from it. As I sit here, in solitude, listening to the sound of my soul, I realize that my life could use a lot of improvement…in all aspects!
So I am here to share my philosophy on change. Here, my friends, are four words to help you move forward:
Reflection, Acceptance, Correction and Direction.
Reflection: Who have I been up until this very moment? Thinking of my life, how does it make me feel? Proud? Ashamed? Insignificant? Do I want to continue on this path? Personally, looking back on my imperfect life, I can shake my head at the thought of a lot of things that I’ve experience and am still experiencing! So my next step is…
Acceptance: Regret among the heaviest emotions to bear. I need clarity to move forward, and the only way for me to receive that is through the acceptance of my past. I cannot change it. It no longer exists. However, the remnants do tend to linger for a looong time.
So, for me to allow more space in my mind and heart for creativity and hope, both which will aid me in improving my life going forward, I need to remove this burden of regret. But, how do I do that? I do that with acceptance.
I was younger, even if what is weighing heavy on my soul is something that took place an hour ago. I did what I thought was right or what I really wanted, with every decision I’ve ever made. Sometimes, my lack of action with certain situations is the cause of my regret.
Even then, I must remember that maybe I wasn’t strong enough at the time to act. My belief in myself wasn’t where it needed to be, and that lack of action may have altered the path of my life. However, I’m here now, and I need to forgive myself and move on. But how do I move on? I move on through…
Correction: Sometimes, my previous actions or lack thereof, has led me to be in the position that I am in, now. If this is the case, I need to figure out what I can do now to improve my current status.
Sometimes, it’s simple. Sometimes, it’s complex. Either way, however, there’s an answer for a resolution.
Once, I’ve created a way to improve my current life situation, I need to commit to this improvement, which is usually not an easy and simple path. I have to alter the path that I am currently on and focus on a new and improved….
Direction: This is the last and final stage for my road to improvement, which can change as I grow. Direction is so important, probably the most important step. This absence of this step is more than likely what has led me to this point of regret, concerning my past.
I didn’t have a plan to commit to and hold myself accountable to. Therefore, I just went with the flow, which can feel good for a while, but will usually end up with a sense of being lost.
I’ve written down the direction that I would love my life to go in. Now, of course, there are always detours in life that can affect the route that I am on. However, if I know where I want to go, I can always find my way back on track.
Every New Year, we can use these four words to help us move forwards. I am sharing my soul with you, today, because I refuse to believe I am alone with these thoughts and feelings in life.
We all have different challenges and victories, but the feelings are usually the same. This is life and being a part of the human race. So, with the beginning of this New Year, 2016, let’s collectively celebrate a truly new year; new ways of thinking, which will lead to new ways of acting.
We have 365 days to make at least one step towards improvement in our lives, and on January 1, 2017, we can truly have something to celebrate, as we reflect, accept, correct and direct our lives going forward.
Thank you, for allowing me to share my soul with you.